Laundry

Nine years. It’s our anniversary today! We got married on a Friday the thirteenth and am feeling like today is more like the “Friday” than the one when we were married.

Happy Anniversary

The FLU is here. Vomit is never welcome in our home but I feel especially exasperated when it arrives when I am pregnant. Thank the Lord that I am not sick (yet). I have been queasy for the past three days and although I should not have any morning sickness at 23 weeks it is hard to determine if it is pregnancy related, if I have a touch of the flu, or if my surroundings are messing with my head.

Vic and I had agreed to do something fun tonight. I saw that the movie War Room was playing at our local theater and suggested we see it and go out for dinner. We were kind of excited since we haven’t been to a movie since October Baby! But today, a quick dinner at home in between my loads of laundry will have to suffice… and hopefully a rain check movie date soon!

Laundry

So, is it a happy anniversary? Yes, I would have to say, indeed it is! I have a wonderful husband, children to care for and love on, and a washing machine to take care of the messes. I am beyond blessed!

PS- While I was typing this a surprise arrived! A cake from my favorite bakery!!!!! (From our dear daughter.) I was totally surprised and she has no idea how much that surprise just made my day!

Anniversary Cake

How is your October going? Have you been able to enjoy this beautiful weather?

 

Christians UNITE for Marriage!

Christians Unite for Marriage

Christians Unite for MarriageMy hand is out reached to you today. I am Catholic. You might be Baptist, Methodist, or Presbyterian. But we are Christians. You see, my heart is heavy and you might know why. Ever since the SCOTUS ruling last Friday I find myself with a weight on my heart. Worrying and wondering about the divisions of this great nation.

Our silence and acceptance has brought us to this point. These fundamental changes in our country’s laws will open up an anti-Christian culture. Morality will continue to decline. Our children will be at risk to the sexually empowered environment they will be surrounded by. Use your voice and your example to stand for His truth. Encourage traditional marriage. Let not our generation be the one that fell silent to sin. Because one day we each will answer the question, “What have you done for my kingdom, good and faithful servant?”

We must bridge together and face the opposition united. Now more than ever we need one another! Denominations are our biggest flaw. Let us come together as brothers and sisters in Christ with the utmost love and compassion to proclaim His truth. Hallelujah, He is King!!!

What denomination are you?

Where do your friends call their church home?

How can we do a better job of working together?

Blessings! xo Janalin

Love Perseveres

LovePerseveres

LovePerseveresI don’t remember the day I quit feeling butterflies when I heard your voice… But I do remember the day when I questioned where they went.

All sorts of questions… Was I still “in love?” …. Did I marry “the one?”

The truth was I had fallen in love with the idea of you. And then years later- both of us worn down, raw and exposed- didn’t look so ideal.

But with that scrutiny I was selfish, immature and ignorant to true love.  Because “[Love] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Corinthians 13:8)

What I have learned since is that falling in love is followed by a choice. A choice to walk together in love. It’s a choice we have to make everyday. Real love is what God teaches us and calls us to live. “He first loved us” (1 John 4:19) and gave Himself to teach us this idea of authentic Love.

Thank you Vic  for opening my eyes to true love. Thank you loving me when I was un-loveable.  Thank you for leading me to see true love and how you are my soulmate.   I can clearly see now that we are soulmates… not because we are ‘perfect’ for one another, but because we choose to live and grow together everyday.

True love doesn’t wait. True love doesn’t withhold. True love doesn’t hold a grudge… Because when we love like Christ we do things without any expectation of return. True love perseveres.

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For the next two weeks would you join me in intentionally loving your husband? No matter the state of your relationship… I challenge each one of you to join me doing simple acts of kindness to transform your marriage.  This will be the unexpected Valentine’s gift that keeps on giving!

I haven’t been on Instagram in (gasp) almost two years. I’m going to warm the account up and be posting my version of the daily challenge there :)

 2/10- Greet him with a 7 second kiss!

2/11- Make (or buy) him his favorite treat.

2/12- Do a chore that he normally takes care of.

2/13- Hold his hand.

2/14-Write down three things that you admire about him.

2/15- Spend time doing something he loves.

2/16- Brag about him where he can hear you do it.

2/17- Write him a love letter.

2/18- Put him first. Make a sacrifice for him.

2/19- Ask him for his advice. And then follow through.

2/20- Encourage him to take time to do something he loves.

2/21- Give him a massage.

2/22- Cook him his favorite meal.

2/23- Send him a flirty text. (and follow through!)

Marriage. It’s worth fighting for.

It’s Valentine’s week and every year I get hopelessly lost in the red, pink, glitter and hearts.  I love love.  It’s really easy for me to celebrate this holiday with my husband and children.

But this week I got a phone call from a girlfriend.  Out of the blue (to me) she told me that she and her husband are getting a divorce.  That they were speaking to the attorney tomorrow.  She was telling me how she was worried about custody issues of their child and my heart was literally breaking as she spoke the words to me.  Our friendship is extremely long distance… we had lost touch in the past and just recently began talking again… so I was not in a place to ask questions about the how, what or whys.  In fact I am not sure that I need to know.  I promised her my prayers.  And honestly that is the most important thing I can do.

In our book club this month we are reading Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.  The book is about how to view marriage as a catalyst as a way to make us holy, not happy.  And I feel compelled today more than ever for each one of us to encourage one another in our marriages.  Because it isn’t easy.  Because our spouses see every single one of our imperfections and we live with theirs.  The feelings that we had- the infatuation- when we fell in love are no longer front of mind in the everyday monotony of keeping the kids fed, clothed, and bills paid.  But there is something so very special in marriage that is worth fighting for.  Especially if you have children.  That bond that no two other people can replicate.  Their mom and their dad.  Together. The security of knowing that even when the going gets tough that leaving is not an option.

We HAVE to start looking inward and changing our own ways.  Praying more.  Praying a lot more.  Because not one of us is perfect.  And the way to perfecting a marriage is to practice humility– giving up our prideful nature of always putting self first. Today I ask you please pray for my friend.  Pray for your own marriage.  And put humility into practice.  Because our children need us to be together.

And I’ll end this with a question.  How can we encourage one another in marriage?