Marriage. It’s worth fighting for.

It’s Valentine’s week and every year I get hopelessly lost in the red, pink, glitter and hearts.  I love love.  It’s really easy for me to celebrate this holiday with my husband and children.

But this week I got a phone call from a girlfriend.  Out of the blue (to me) she told me that she and her husband are getting a divorce.  That they were speaking to the attorney tomorrow.  She was telling me how she was worried about custody issues of their child and my heart was literally breaking as she spoke the words to me.  Our friendship is extremely long distance… we had lost touch in the past and just recently began talking again… so I was not in a place to ask questions about the how, what or whys.  In fact I am not sure that I need to know.  I promised her my prayers.  And honestly that is the most important thing I can do.

In our book club this month we are reading Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.  The book is about how to view marriage as a catalyst as a way to make us holy, not happy.  And I feel compelled today more than ever for each one of us to encourage one another in our marriages.  Because it isn’t easy.  Because our spouses see every single one of our imperfections and we live with theirs.  The feelings that we had- the infatuation- when we fell in love are no longer front of mind in the everyday monotony of keeping the kids fed, clothed, and bills paid.  But there is something so very special in marriage that is worth fighting for.  Especially if you have children.  That bond that no two other people can replicate.  Their mom and their dad.  Together. The security of knowing that even when the going gets tough that leaving is not an option.

We HAVE to start looking inward and changing our own ways.  Praying more.  Praying a lot more.  Because not one of us is perfect.  And the way to perfecting a marriage is to practice humility– giving up our prideful nature of always putting self first. Today I ask you please pray for my friend.  Pray for your own marriage.  And put humility into practice.  Because our children need us to be together.

And I’ll end this with a question.  How can we encourage one another in marriage? 

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

Have you looked at the calendar?  One month until Valentine’s Day!!!  YAY!  Even though I don’t get real serious about the commercialization of the holiday I adore anything that has to do with hearts, pink, love, and emotion.  Oh yes, and chocolate.  I will buy some of that!!!  For the kids, you know :)

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

But more so than the day of Valentines, I am trying to focus February on my husband and our relationship.  It is SO EASY to get comfy, especially after kids, in the lingerie department.  You hear me sweatpants?  You are not going to be a staple anymore!!   In an effort to encourage all of us to take a quick evaluation of our unmentionables drawer I have pulled a few ideas that might give you enough time to do a quick update to your evening wardrobe before the big day next month.  And while I’m all for the super sexy lingerie that is just for hubby’s eyes, the underlying goal of this post is to help you find some cute items that you can wear around the house- in front of the kids- and whomever might stop at the door unexpectedly.

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

Chemise2e3723307b12ed5f20a0b4e417804107Satin PJs

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

Slip Gown

Lingerie for the Modern Mom

Camisole and Pant Set

If you have a favorite place to shop please link in the comments!  The more the merrier and we will all help one another out!  Happy shopping!  XO